But we as women have got to start looking out for our own! We hold and create more power than we give ourselves credit for, and we are more powerful when we stand together than against one another. We have to stop wondering what someone is trying to take from us and focus on what we can be gaining if we were to unite.
Two powerful, strong minded women, establishing a friendship, is more commanding than one woman working alone. And it’s not just for business reasons.
Healthy relationships with other woman can create a support group you’ll never experience anywhere else. Women are the only ones who can genuinely understand one another, no matter how great we think our male-female friendship really is.
There are some women out there who truly want to see you win and succeed in life, because they want what’s best for you. I know for some of us, this may seem impossible, and truth be told, if I didn’t have such strong female relationships, I wouldn’t believe it myself.
But believe me, it’s out there, but we have to start with ourselves. Surround yourself around women who are driven, inspiring, and motivational. Don’t befriend someone who is going to be a Yes-man and agree with everything you say. You want someone to challenge you and give you a different perspective on things. And remember, only a real friend will tell you, you are wrong!
Stay away from the gossipers. If they’re ok with spreading other people’s business, who’s to say they won’t spread yours.
Most importantly, let go of this illusion that the amount of time you’ve known someone determines how loyal they should be to you. Loyalty doesn’t understand time, nor does it care about it. Someone who genuinely cares about you will be loyal to you despite how long they’ve known.
To summarize it all, ladies, we are stronger together, than we are divided. If we have each other’s backs, there’s nothing we can’t accomplish! Now, I’m not saying go out here and befriend every Nicole, Brittany, and Sara.
I am saying, if you see another woman stumbling, there’s no harm in stepping in and helping her get herself together, without being judgmental. There’s nothing you’ll gain from turning your nose up at her, without knowing her story. There will come a moment where we will, or have, found ourselves at a low point. And we will want someone to be there to help us out as well.
Ladies, your crown will never fall off, while helping another woman fix hers!
Once God has dealt with this mindset, he will address your queen mindset. this mindset will challenge everything you have believe about yourself and God. Queen in order to fix your crown you must first understand an embrace that you’re worthy of all God has for you.
1 Peter 2:9, ESV: "But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for his own possession, that you may proclaim the excellencies of him who called you out of darkness into his marvelous light."
He also you are “fearfully and wonderfully made” ps. 139:14
It’s time for you to shake it off, you made the mistakes. It’s time for you to move on, he wasn’t worthy of you anyway. Come out from hiding, it’s time for you to live and that starts with taking your life back. I don’t care what you did last night, today is a new day with fresh anointing and grace. And now it’s time you fix your crown. I can no longer sit back and watch a generation of women going in the wrong direction. I have a responsibility to try to save you. Whether you take my direction or not, I have been charged by God to give them to you. And as a woman, I will no longer sit idly by while life continually knocks the hell out of you. As a woman with a mother, sisters, aunts, a daughter, nieces, cousins, church family and friends; I can’t just stand by and watch you fall.
So, I’ll tell you, you’re worthy until you start believing.
I’ll tell you; you don’t deserve abuse until you get out.
I’ll tell you, God made you to be wives and not just girlfriends and baby mommas until you get it.
I’ll tell you, you’re an heir to royalty until you walk in it.
And I tell you when God is not pleased. Because there are too many of us, women, not wearing the crown we deserve.
Therefore, get up, get dressed, pat down your weave, fix your wig or comb your hair and adjust your freaking crown.
Stop trying to fill the void left by your daddy, you can’t.
Stop patching the holes in your heart with another insignificant man, it won’t work.
Stop holding your head down and hold it up high.
Stop with the suicidal thoughts of I’m not good enough, you are.
Girl, don’t you want your crown that’s waiting on you?
· Then no more foolish behavior.
· No more attacking another woman.
· No more low self-esteem.
· No more cutting yourself just to feel pain.
· No more comparing yourself.
· No more Putting the needs of others before self.
· No more Distorted view of self
· No more covering your body in tattoos and no more hiding behind the mask.
It’s time you get your crown. The bible says in 1 Timothy 2:10, “For women who claim to be devoted to God should make themselves attractive by the good things they do.”
Step into your rightful place, woman! It’s been waiting for you. No matter what you are still a queen and it’s time you took your rightful place. Your path is not a factor nor does your present state factor into how God sees you. Your future is still being built. All God needs you to do is trust his journey. Allow God to go into those areas you have kept hidden. Grant God access to your secrets your past your present your future. Know there is purpose in your pain purpose in your tears purpose in your shame. Queen there is purpose God has for your life so start today girl and fix your crown for there is work to be done.